“Breaking Bad” habits of faking confidence
Sorry if I lured you here under false pretences – yes, there is a Breaking Bad movie in the works, but this isn’t really what this email is about (sorry).
Instead, I’d like to talk about how confident you really are versus how confident you pretend to be.
Answer this: How long does it take for you to feel relaxed enough to ditch the makeup around your partner?
This is one of the first things I always ask in my signature Breakthrough to a Blooming Love Life Session to gauge the level of self-confidence, self-acceptance, self-love and self-worth, but it always triggers so many deep, unsolved problems.
So, what’s the difference between a healthy self-confidence and a fake one?
A healthy self-confidence doesn’t require improvement. The more natural it is, the more attractive and successful you are in your love life.
Be honest: Do you tend to invest $100s on make-up, false nails, hair extensions, Botox and clothes in an attempt to help build your self-confidence?
Are you surprised that despite all these interventions your self-confidence is actually getting worse?
I recently made a calculation with a potential client to see how much her fake confidence was costing her. You can imagine her surprise when we discovered she was spending $1000 a month – and it wasn’t even making her feel better!
Despite this, when I asked her if she could let go some of these expenses, she was horrified at the prospect. Believe it or not, this is, in fact, a normal reaction when you have an attachment to a fake personality as it’s part of your Ego and your Ego will do anything to stop you eliminating it.
Having an attachment to a fake personality is detrimental, as it then becomes a magnet for all emotionally unavailable men.
- How much do you invest annually to boost your superficial self-confidence?
- How much will it cost you in 5 years?
- Are you willing to feed a part of your Ego that doesn’t serve you in the long run?
When Helen had her first call with me, she told me she couldn’t attract eligible bachelors as she had no confidence.
After just 3 weeks of working together, she had already scored 3 dates with awesome men, and by week 7 she was in a relationship with Mr Right.
What did she change?
- She shifted the way she perceived herself
- She started to invest in her real confidence
- She allowed herself to be vulnerable (yes, even going make-up free in front of her new man!)
When will you start investing intelligently in yourself so that you attract your own Mr Right?
My mission is to help single, intelligent women connect with who they really are, allowing them to build an amazing relationship without stress.
I love to work with women who are hungry and ready to transform their lives; women who have decided they want love, are committed to making it happen, are not willing to let external circumstances stand in their way and understand that the most intelligent investment is in themselves and who they really are.
If that’s you, let’s talk! I have few spots left this week. Just grab a time that works for you for a complimentary Breakthrough session with me or another highly qualified member of my team: https://www.bloomyourlovelife.com/call
Founder Bloom your Love Life